THIS WEEK’S TINY ACTION FOR BIG TRANSFORMATION: SPREAD YOUR WINGS AND RECEIVE
Greetings to you, my dear butterfly friends. Today I’m wondering, were you raised on the expression, “tis better to give than to receive?” I think most of us were, as were our mothers before us. But I’m spreading my wings to add to that- “ tis better to receive than to push away.” Not a well known cliché but for many of us (and our mothers before us) not as natural to practice, either. By our very nature we are nurturers. We are excellent givers. But not so good at receiving. How much of what we are given do we turn away without our even thinking about it? From the sweet warmth of the sun on our backs to a friend trying to tell us they “have our back”?
I have lived my life a super giver and love giving for the most part, but receiving is a newer muscle to exercise. Use it or lose it. So I’m exercising it in order to get it buff. More and more on this journey I see receiving is the beginning of true giving.
So my tiny action for big transformation this week is to keep an ear open for “Things We do and Say to Push Receiving Away.”
From the “you shouldn’t haves” to the “why didn’t yous?
For all we are desire we are genuinely afraid to ask for.
What are we really giving the ones we love?
Who are we saying this to?
What are we really asking from our children, our partners, our friends, our God?
Who wants to give to one who doesn’t receive?
And who wants to receive from one who can’t really give?
I’m starting with a tiny ledger to keep my discoveries. And at the top I’m putting this quote I love by Jim Rohn: “Asking is the beginning of receiving. Make sure you don’t go to the ocean with a teaspoon. At least take a bucket so the kids won’t laugh at you.”
Here are some things to be open to receiving:
A great big bucket.
A thank you
The unabashed joy of a baby’s “hello” as she passes you in her stroller
An invitation to a party
The possibility of another point of view
The moment we can forgive our lovers, children, parents (fill in the blank) for what we haven’t received and find that’s when we really start receiving!
Our talents and skills
A good night’s rest
The thrill of beautiful music
A meal placed graciously before us
The blessings of motherhood
The glory of just helping another
The confidence that comes from taking a risk
The gift of giving freely.
The gift of receiving without feeling now we must give back. Really!
By not receiving am I stopping myself from:
Hearing my own intuition?
Having more energy?
Busting out of my cocoon because it’s my time?
What if the answer to all the issues I think I have is really “how much am I willing to receive?”
I will so love and receive your thoughts and discoveries this week. Please let me know. How’s it flying?
With grace and gratitude,